Our Deadline to Vacate is Tomorrow

It's been a few weeks since my last blog update. We have made a little progress with our new attorney, who has contacted the Successor Trustee. We are doing everything we can within the legal system to stay in the house. We don't know if somebody will serve us eviction papers or if the Trustee will work with us to let us pay the monthly expenses.

The reason the Successor Trustee wants to sell the home is to settle the previously discussed debt owed to the nursing home; this is something that we have been waiting since October 2023 for the attorney of the nursing home to finish up a settlement agreement that would hold only Charles and myself responsible for the debt. The second reason is that they want Trustee Fees of over $10,000.00 paid. They also stated that we can't afford to live there, which I find ironic considering we have been living in the home for 19 years, and they have never even approached us to discuss a monthly payment amount.

It's been almost a year since we received the "Motion" from the attorney to take over the Trust. It took us two months in the spring of 2023 to find an attorney to handle our case.

The stress that Charles and I have dealt with for the two years has taken a toll on us. I hesitated to continue writing the blog because bringing up the past brings up a lot of anxiety, and I have suffered a major panic attack in the past few weeks—something I have not had in over ten years.

I have been attacked on social media by haters, ridiculed, and judged about the situation we are in. The bright side to this is we have heard from other people who have had similar situations happen and people who have read our story and are changing how they have their legal affairs set up. To say this is a bizarre case is an understatement.

In my next blog, I will outline our experience with our attorney and the two court dates that decided our future. Hopefully, I will have some news on where we stand with staying in the home.

Recently, we started a GoFundMe to assist us with raising funds to cover our attorney fees. To our friends and colleagues over the years, we are asking for help. I hope you will find it in your hearts.

Comments

February 2023 - May 2023

The Guardian never contacted us, even after we received the official “Order” from the court in December 2022. Meanwhile, the funds were adding up in Jean’s account with no payments being made to the nursing facility. I called the facility in December and they wouldn’t divulge any information to me concerning Jean’s financial obligation to them, they wouldn’t even tell me if she had enough personal funds in the account for hair, nails, etc., and they had to get permission from the Guardian to tell me that. We did not realize it at the time but the Guardian was having all Jean’s mail that was going to our address forwarded to them, so we were not seeing any bills from the nursing home, but they were and they didn’t do anything about getting them paid. They never told us they had her mail forwarded they had absolutely no contact with us. In early February 2023 we were served with a “Motion To Appoint Guardian Of The Estate As Trustee Of Ward’s Revocable Trus...

January 2005

In this post, I am going to briefly review the course of events from January 2005 - August 2011. This was prior to Jean entering assisted living. From the beginning of our relationship in 2004, Jean was very involved in our life. She was always a very controlling woman, especially over Charles, her only son. A lot of you don’t know this but Charles suffers from an auto immune disorder and he has been on disability since 1999. In 2005 Charles and I decided to move in together and we rented the home we currently live in. After a year, we all talked about the possibility of us buying a home in the North Raleigh area. Jean wanted to make sure that Charles always had a home to live in. After looking at several homes, we approached the owner of the home we were renting and it closed in July 2006. Jean has a revocable living trust, and the home was put into the trust. In part, this was what Jean thought was best to do to prot...

The Assisted Living Years 2011 - 2021

About six - eight months prior to Jean going into assisted living, we started to see a decline in her mental capacity. We had hired aids that were with her three to four days a week and she continued to live at home until it was clearly unsafe for her to be alone. Jean moved into assisted living in August 2011. In a ten year period, Jean was in four different assisted living facilities. Two in Raleigh, one in Lilington and one in Wendell. For the first move, Jean wanted a private apartment, and even though she had long term care, it did not last long as we were paying over $8,000.00 per month. In addition we still paid for private care for the first year, along with medications, personal care, etc. The money she received in Social Security and Retirement were used to pay these costs. Eventually, we had Jean move in with a roommate, and the expense was slightly lower. This was about the same time that Jean started ...

Blindsided

Search This Blog